Dating for healthcare professionals
In today’s dating culture being ghosted is a phenomenon that approximately 50 percent of men and women have experienced—and an almost equal number have Despite ghosting's commonality, the emotional effects can be devastating, and particularly damaging to those who already have fragile self-esteem. People who ghost are primarily focused on avoiding their own emotional discomfort and they aren’t thinking about how it makes the other person feel.
The lack of social connections to people who are met online also means there are less social consequences to dropping out of someone’s life.
He would disappear for months at the time because, according to him, he had his own issues that he wanted to solve them alone.
I was left alone, wondering what I had done wrong, what happened, why was I being "punished", why did he pushed me away. Years later, he admitted that he had other women and even had fathered a child during those awful years.
When someone we love and trust disengages from us it feels like a very deep betrayal. One of the most insidious aspects of ghosting is that it doesn’t just cause you to question the validity of the relationship you had, it causes you to question yourself. How could I have been such a poor judge of character? How do I protect myself from this ever happening again?
If you have been through multiple ghostings or if your self-esteem is already low you are likely to experience the rejection as even more painful, and it may take you longer to get over it as people with lower-self-esteem have less natural opioid (pain-killer) released into the brain after a rejection when compared to those whose self-esteem is higher.
She tried to get a response from him but to no avail which I guess makes the pain even greater.
I don't know how to help her other than to let time pass for her heart to heal. It happened with someone I was deeply in love and trusted 100%.
Since you don't have friends in common or weren't introduced through some other channel, it's not the end of the world if you just drop off the face of the earth.” “I, for one, consider myself to be an honest and straightforward person. And I’ve told myself, time and time again, that it’s all the fault of the toxic dating culture we’ve created. What if they are hurt and lying in a hospital bed somewhere? Maybe they are just a little busy and will be calling you at any moment.
And at the end of the day, I think that’s what we’re all telling ourselves.” How does it feel to be ghosted? You move on, but not before your self-esteem takes a hit. You don’t know how to react because you don’t really know what has happened.